Where You Want To Be
Barry was on the phone in his office, speaking with confidence,
energy and passion.
In his office were a number of removal men working quickly moving
furniture out the door to the van parked outside. Before long the
office was bare except for some old files, a cracked picture
frame and a parched plant.
Just then a tall man in a dark suit entered the building with a
swagger. He found Barry still on the phone, standing in a corner
of the empty office. His voice echoed around the empty room as
he finished his conversation and hung up and placed the phone
back on the floor.
Barry reached into his pocket to find his keyring, he selected
the car key and reluctantly handed it over. The man in the suit
grabed it before walking outside and driving off at high speed in
John walked in to see Barry just as all of this was happening. He
was surprised at how relaxed and confident Barry was given the
circumstances. You see, Barry had just lost his business and the
removal men had arrived to repossess his furniture while the car
leasing company had taken back the Rolls Royce because the
payments had fallen into arrears.
John was here for the same reason - to collect an unpaid debt.
Although it was clear now that there was little chance of getting
any money. So John and Barry did a deal. If Barry would teach him
how he could be so cool in the face of pressure than the debt
would be regarded as paid.
This is what Barry said to him:
**The big secret in life is to train your mind to think only
about what you want to happen and to keep your thoughts off of
what you do not want. Despite the fact that I have just lost my
business, my car, and my office I just got off the phone, before
it gets disconnected, after negotiating what could be one of my
biggest deals ever.
Always keep your mind picturing what you really want and THINK
ABOUT WHERE YOU WANT TO BE and not where you are. Stress is what
happens when you put your attention on the wrong things.**
And now over to you. Most people live life in a trance without
noticing the thoughts that are flying around inside their heads
all day long. Spend more time each day spotting what you think
about, you will likely find that you often run through all the
things that could go wrong as well as seeing situations working
out as being only o.k.
Next, review a recent event where the pressure was on and you
froze. How did you manage to put yourself in such an
unresourceful state. What thoughts were going through your mind.
More than likely you created big pictures in your mind of things
Get into the habit of expecting things to work out and you will
find yourself picturing life running more smoothly. You will then
feel more confident, people will respond to you differently and
you will get better results. Before long you will see that it is
a self fulfilling prophecy.
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