Self-Opinions---Can Limit Our Lives
Dr. Phil says each of us has a personal "truth" -what
we believe of ourselves when no one else is looking-- and
from this comes results in our lives that are in keeping
with that truth.
Let's call it our "opinions" of ourselves. They take
many forms, we have an opinion of ourselves in every aspect
of our lives; how we look, how well we speak, think, walk,
work, dress, make love, treat others, etc., etc. These
opinions, not being obvious, require some honest inward
thinking (introspection) to ascertain their nature.
One of the best clues we can use to recognize the
nature of these opinions is to first look at the results.
Do we dress in a sloppy way because we believe we don't
deserve to look neat? Do we avoid applying for that better
job because we believe we don't measure up? Do we refrain
from asking that attractive person for a date because we
believe we are not attractive enough? Do we not speak out
because we believe our thoughts are not interesting to
Beliefs, though natural and not dictated by our
conscious minds, can be changed. Opinions are formed by
observed evidence so all we need to do is provide some
evidence to the contrary and our natural common sense takes
over and makes the change for the better.
We probably can't make a sweeping change over night
butwhy not a little at a time? Choose some aspect of your
that you think might be held back by a poor opinion and
decide that you want to change it. Maybe you are overweight
because you believe deep down that you can't lose any. Pick
a small goal like losing five pounds. Just do it, find a
way. There! You just proved you can lose weight and your
natural sense believes the evidence. Now you know you can.
Look around at work. Ask for more responsibility or
volunteer for extra duties or tasks. Do a good job on these
and there! You've proved to yourself that you are more
capable. Find some time to get some daily exercise and
you'll be surprised at how confidently you'll walk and even
actually feel. (This deserves a separate report).
Choose any aspect of your life and make a small
positive change. Just like that you've reversed a negative
belief, turned around, and moved in a desirable direction.
Now make multiple small changes and sooner or later there
can be a big change, just as a bricklayer builds a
structure brick by brick.
It takes time and effort to effect changes but don't
you personally deserve some? (This could be the first and
best change in your self-opinions).
Your reward can be a real makeover. Small changes
multiplied over and over can add up to big changes. With
better self-opinions comes better results which in turn
leads to a better life-a new you!
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